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We all understand there are certain lines you just don’t cross in public. Common courtesy dictates that we treat service staff with respect and recognize the boundaries of their job. Asking for an extra napkin is fine; asking for a kidney is not.

However, one young waitress recently took to the internet to share a story about a customer whose request went so far beyond the pale, it left thousands of people speechless.

The Incident

A 23-year-old woman, working as a waitress to pay for her studies, found herself in a truly uncomfortable situation during a recent shift. A customer who used a wheelchair called her over to the table and stated, quite directly, “I will need help to use the toilet.”

The waitress was understandably confused. Thinking perhaps the woman’s companion or carer had stepped away, she offered to find them for her. But the customer’s response was even more shocking. She clarified that no, she needed the waitress’s help. She wanted the young woman, a complete stranger, to come into the bathroom stall with her, help her undress, and physically assist her onto the toilet.

Politely but firmly, the waitress explained that she couldn’t do that. The customer was not pleased and demanded to see a manager. Thankfully, the manager supported the employee’s decision, but the incident didn’t end there. The customer later left a nasty review for the restaurant, leaving the waitress to wonder if she had done the right thing.

The Internet Reacts

When the waitress shared her story online, the public’s response was a resounding roar of support. The comments quickly sorted themselves into a few distinct camps, all of whom agreed the customer was completely out of line.

The first and largest group was the “Absolutely Not” crowd. These readers were simply appalled by the audacity of the request. One person summed it up perfectly: “From the title I thought maybe they needed help using a ramp or something but taking someone to the toilet and undressing them is super unreasonable.” Another user dryly noted, “You handle food for a living. Helping someone p..p is not on the menu.”

Next came the “Liability and Logistics” camp, which focused on the practical and legal reasons why the waitress made the right call. Many pointed out the immense risk involved. “It would break all kinds of health and safety regulations, especially if the woman fell,” one commenter wrote.

A healthcare worker weighed in, explaining that professionals are trained “to never work outside of your scope of practice because then you just become target practice for liability suits.” This isn’t just theory; another waitress shared that at her job, “we aren’t even allowed to push a customer’s wheelchair to their table” because of insurance and liability issues.

Finally, there was the “Something More Sinister” camp. These readers suspected the customer had ulterior motives. The most common theory was that it was a setup for a lawsuit. “Call me a pessimist…but I think that’s what she was TRYING to do,” one user speculated. “This has SCAM written all over it.” Others wondered if the motive was even darker, suggesting some people derive a strange pleasure from putting others in such uncomfortable situations. As one person put it, “Con artist and pervert are not mutually exclusive.”

The Etiquette Verdict

Let’s be perfectly clear: the waitress was 100% in the right. While we should always strive to be kind and helpful, there is a distinct line between customer service and personal care. A waitress is not a trained nurse or a personal support worker.

The customer’s request was not only inappropriate and unprofessional, but it also put the young employee in a potentially dangerous situation from a legal, physical, and sanitary standpoint. Individuals who require that level of personal assistance have a responsibility to make their own arrangements, such as dining with a trusted carer.

Your Thoughts

What do you think of this situation? Was the customer making a reasonable request given her circumstances, or was she completely out of line to ask a stranger for such personal help?